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Trying to account for every possible version of the future at once is a mental juggling act. When many moving parts are still unresolved, the planning becomes overwhelming, because none of the decisions can actually be made yet.
Have you ever felt an overwhelming need to take charge, to ensure everything runs exactly as it should? Maybe you catch yourself micromanaging, struggling to delegate, or feeling tense when things don’t go according to plan. If this sounds familiar, you may identify with the Controller Saboteur.
In Positive Intelligence, the Judge is your internal critic. It attacks your abilities, recruits accomplice saboteurs like the Stickler (perfectionism) or the Avoider (procrastination), and drains your energy. The Judge masquerades as a motivator, but it ultimately stifles growth. Recognising its presence is the first step toward breaking free.
A PQ rep is a short mental exercise that shifts your focus to the present moment. It works because it interrupts negative thought patterns and strengthens the neural pathways associated with calm, focus, and resilience.
As we approach the end of the year, it’s natural to reflect on all the goals you set and the ones still looming on your to-do list. For many of us, this reflection sparks a relentless urge to push harder, striving for more right up until the clock strikes midnight on December 31st. But what if this year, instead of striving, you paused to celebrate how far you’ve come?
Perfectionism often wears a disguise. It’s praised as a driver of high performance, but beneath the surface, it can lead to more harm than good. Research shows that while some forms of perfectionism, particularly those focused on personal standards, can push us towards excellence, the self-critical side of perfectionism is a different story.
Like most of us, I’ve struggled with a number of bad habits that I’ve wanted to change. My most recent was like a ghost that only came out at night… specifically, after dinner. I’ll tell you how I got rid of this ghost in a moment. Everybody has habits: good habits, bad habits, annoying habits …
Have you ever thought about resilience and how it can be a transformative factor for high achievers like you? As a high achiever, your resilience plays a pivotal role in your success. After all, our endeavours often feel like an extension of ourselves. The ability to detach your personal identity from your pursuits can be …
Take a second to think about all of the amazing things you have accomplished this week, this month, and this year. Reflect on how your skills, commitment and expertise made these things happen. Do your many achievements easily come to mind? Or do you struggle to recognise your part in making them happen?
Imposter Syndrome is that nagging feeling that you don’t deserve your accomplishments, that you’re just a lucky imposter who will soon be exposed.
Being at the base of these stairs reminded me of the challenges we encounter when wanting to making changes in life. It can seem like making changes requires a long and difficult climb to the top and we’re often confronted with solid brick walls that hinder our progress. The start of a new year is …
Seeing the new moon rising in a morning sky was a new experience for me when visiting Cornwall in England a few years ago. This memory has prompted me to ponder what lays ahead for the approaching new year and how you can contribute to your own happiness and success. Knowing your strengths builds your …
Belonging and feeling connected to others nurtures our own self-care and that of others.
What is it that you want when you achieve your goals? More money, healthier body, better job, faster car, larger house and the list continues… But what are you really wanting when you get there? The freedom of choice more money allows? A sense of wellness with a healthier body? More autonomy with a better …
The important question is – How do we see ourselves in our own mind? Often, we are quick to praise and acknowledge other people’s strengths, talents and abilities. Then, when we look at our own reflection, we mainly see our shortcomings and weaknesses, often greatly underestimating the talents that lie within us. A common perception …
